Moving
on from a break up is perhaps one of the toughest things for anyone to do.
There are sad movies, sad songs, stress eating, gorging on ice cream, and a lot
of crying. It’s always a messy scene and may take a person months and sometimes
years to come out of it. Some people are just not strong as others when it
comes to the matters of love and they become stuck on one person, even after
the break up. Especially since women are more emotional, it is harder for them
to deal with a break up. In such a situation, getting your ex-boyfriend back in
your life might be a good idea. But it is a very complicated territory and one
must tread with immense caution.
Assessment level
The
first step in getting your ex-boyfriend back into your life is to assess the
situation closely. You need to ask yourself that why did the break up happen at
the first place and why do you want him back. You need to find out whether the
break up happened because of irreparable reasons. If that’s so, then it might
not be a good idea to get back with him. In case you think the problems can be
fixed, only then try to get him back. Also, you need to find out whether you
want him back just because your ego is hurt or if you genuinely want him back
because you still love him.
Try the casual
approach
Rather
than pleading, crying, and creating a ruckus which would further push him away
from you, it’s always a better idea to casually approach them. Be it a text
message or a facebook chat, a simple ‘Hi” or “How have you been” would be a
great ice breaker. Your next step should obviously depend on his reply. If it’s
a positive reply then go ahead with a chat, but without any emotional drama.
Try to meet him in a
group or with another couple
It’s
a good idea to meet him for the first time post break up in a group, say a
mutual friend’s party or a coffee date with another couple friend. It would be
nice to rekindle the friendship first and avoid one on one meeting to avoid any
emotional drama. Also, when there would be other people around you, things
would be much lighter and fun.
Visit your old
favourite joint together
Visiting
your favourite spots you guys had as a couple would be a great idea to bring
back memories and help him remind how good you two were together. Be it a
restaurant, a mall, or a market; try to fix up a meeting there.
Talk about the good
times
When
you guys do meet post break up, casually begin the chat about his life and
share what’s happening in yours. Slowly start talking about the fun times you
had together, like a vacation or a trip. Talk about the good things that
happened when you guys were together and bring back the good memories. He’s
bound to fall back for you if he’s still into you.
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About Guest Author
Ajay
Chauhan is a relationship expert and is on a regular advice panel with a
leading lifestyle magazine. Currently he is writing for Lovewale.com.
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